Making Your Marriage Life Happy

One should consider the commitments made in marriage. If the commitment of either person is not strong and solid, the marriage will rest on a shaky foundation. In many parts of the world today, marriages are made and then quickly broken often because the persons entering the marriage did not view commitment as morally binding, taking the position instead that if it doesn’t work out, they will end it. It usually exists in marriage and is almost doomed from the start and, rather than bringing happiness, generally produces heartache. As what I have known in the Bible that marriage should be a lifelong relationship and only sexual unfaithfulness will be a just basis for breaking the marital bond. When we talked about seriousness of marriage, a woman who wants to be successful in it, does well to marry only a man that she can be respected. The one, who is stable and balanced, has sound judgment, and most of all he will be able to handle the responsibility and is mature enough to accept the criticism. Alternatively, you can also ask yourself that “Is he a good father and a good provider to my children?” Does he have high moral standards so that you can be both firmly resolved to keep the marriage? Similarly, a man who takes the success of his marriage seriously will seek a wife that he can love his own flesh. He should complement her as a partner in establishing a home.    

Sincere and Respect for each other are key ingredients to a successful marriage. And this also applies to expression of affection during courtship. With undue familiarity and unbridle passion can cheapen the relationship before marriage begins. Lack of self-control before marriage frequently foreshadows lack of it afterwards, with resulting infidelity and unhappiness. Therefore, the inner person is more important than the outward appearance. It’s just like “Charm may be false, and prettiness may be vain”.

So what do you want out of marriage? What are your needs, physically, emotionally, and spiritually? To answer these questions you must know yourself first. This is not as easy as one might think. It takes emotional maturity to examine ourselves, and even then it is impossible to see ourselves as we really are in every detail. So question yourself about your interest in marriage. Do you want to get married to satisfy physical needs, which are food, clothing, and shelter? These needs are basic. Or the need for sex? This is also a normal desire. Or is it for companionship? This is the main reason why we have established the marriage arrangement. Another is for two persons to cooperate in work. You must not only know your own particular needs for happiness in marriage but also include the needs of your partner so that you may surely want your partner to be happy also, since unhappiness for one will mean unhappiness for both.    

Many marriages end up in unhappiness or divorce on the grounds for incompatibility. Incompatibility is a big word, but its importance in marriage is even bigger. This is also true with a man and woman who are not well matched and yet are teamed up in marriage. Often greater compatibility usually exists between two persons having similar backgrounds. However, of course, this does not mean it is advisable for a person today to marry a very close relative. When the backgrounds of both couples are similar, others usually find it easier to grow in the same soil and flourish in the same climate. However, persons with different backgrounds and origins can also make good adjustments in marriage, especially if both are nature emotionally.